The Impact of Confidence on Relationships

I know it may sound odd, but your confidence and your partner’s confidence influences your relationship.  When you have self-confidence you’re less focused on yourself.  We’ve all been guilty of worrying about what someone else thinks of us.  I know I’ve been guilty of saying things in my head like,  “Are they staring at me?  I should’ve worn a different shirt. Gosh, why did I say that dumb thing?”   When the reality is people don’t think about you as much as you think they do.  They are wrapped up in their own problems and concerns. 

When you get out of your head, you are more present to genuinely engage with others.  You’re more able to enjoy interactions because you aren’t as concerned about the kind of impression you’re making, or comparing yourself with others.  With confidence you are in a more relaxed state, putting others at ease and able to develop deeper connections.

Having self-confidence creates deeper empathy.  When you can be fully present, you’re more likely to notice that your partner is feeling a little down, or when a friend needs someone to talk to.  If you aren’t preoccupied with self-doubt, you can be the person that notices someone else is needing help, and are more likely to reach out and say something. 

Confidence also affects relationships by creating a stronger sense of self.  In other words, you are able to be more authentic.  With confidence comes the ability to recognize and embrace our weaknesses, knowing they don’t alter your self-worth.  You also recognize and honor your strengths embracing and amplifying them.

You are more aligned with who you really are, and your sense of purpose.  That translates to an authentic self that shows up in your actions, personality, and the way you express yourself overall.  So if you are lacking confidence.  The good news is it can be developed just like a muscle the more you focus on and take action the more confident you will become! So how do you grow your confidence? 

·         Stop comparing yourself to others

·         Remind yourself that others aren’t as concerned with you as you think they are

·         Write a list of things you’ve achieved or overcome to be the person you are today

·  Accept yourself and believe in your own abilities, skills, and experience

·         Do things out of your comfort zone

·         Envision yourself as the confident person you want to be and do what that person would do

·         Do something that changes your look a new hairstyle, buy an outfit, wear lipstick

·         Don’t seek external approval, I repeat, do not seek external approval

·         Commit to doing something that grows your confidence daily

There many, many things that can be done to improve your confidence.  However, confidence cannot improve, until you notice and face the voices in your head and change the narrative.  Even if you take just small steps to improve confidence it can change your relationships and how you “show up” for people. After all, confidence is linked to nearly every factor involved in a happy and fulfilling life. Understanding the benefits is an important step toward living your best life with confidence.

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